Don't look for healing at the feet of those who broke you

Don’t look for healing at the feet of those who broke you

Read this statement out loud, and let it sink in.

The person who broke you, cannot be the same one to fix you. You cannot run back into the arms of someone and expect them to make all your problems go away when they are the root of all your problems to start with. You cannot allow yourself to fall in love with comfort. It’s easy to run and hide in a heart that feels like home, but what if that home is slowly starting to fall apart.. It has mold growing on the walls, the windows and doors don’t close or lock, and the roof is started to cave in- that isn’t a home you should feel safe in any longer. Be the one to knock that home down, and build a new one!

I always thought that forgiving people who did me wrong was what I needed to do to show that I was a better person. If I laid my weapons down at the people who broke me, I would somehow heal faster, and remind them of why doing me wrong was their mistake. But why I am looking for healing of my own based on their outlook of me still?! I have struggled days, months and some years trying to forgive people who I considered to be VIP’s in my life. The lying, cheating, name calling, all of it- I have been thinking about them in my forgiveness, when in reality I should of only been thinking of myself. I’ve recently realized I cannot look for healing at the feet of those who broke me.

I do not have to forgive, and I do not have to forget. I am allowed to heal in whatever way I find necessary without taking into consideration the feelings of the person who broke me. I do not have to run back, I do not have to put my weapon down, and I do not have to look for them to approve my healing process.

I refuse to heal at the feet of those who broke me and I refuse to find comfort in the place that previously housed my heart.